Do you have the belief that something is wrong with you and you cant shake that feeling?

Shame is the painful belief that something is wrong with you. 

Not that you did something bad, but that you are bad.

Toxic Shame (the core belief)
“I’m not enough. I’m unlovable. I’m the problem.”
This is the deep, invisible force that can shape your thoughts, relationships, and self-worth.
It often hides underneath the surface as more specific types of shame.

Subtypes of Shame:

Identity Shame- This kind of shame is about who you think you are deep down
- Existential Shame – “I don’t fit in. I don’t belong anywhere.”
- Internalized Shame – “I’ve absorbed what others said or implied about me.”

Action Shame- This kind of shame is about what you’ve done or how you’ve shown up
- Situational Shame – “I did something bad.”
- Performance Shame – “I have to be the best or I’m nothing.” You feel worthless if you mess up, fall behind

Relationship Shame- how we see ourselves in comparison to others or how we imagine others see us.
- Comparative Shame – “Others are better than me.”
- Body Shame – “My body is wrong.”
- Relational Shame – “I’m a burden or disappointment to others.” You hold back your needs, afraid people will pull away if you’re “too needy.”

Why Bother Naming the Shame?
Because shame tricks you into thinking you are the problem. When you name it, you stop blindly believing it.

Instead of “I suck at everything”, you can pause and realize “This is performance shame. It shows up when I think I have to be perfect to be okay.”

Here’s why that matters:
You stop spiraling and start understanding what’s really going on.
You feel less alone because you realize: “Oh, this has a name. I’m not the only one.”
You can respond with care instead of panic; like you would with a younger version of yourself.

Once you know what kind of shame is speaking, you can stop letting it run the show.

Please continue to keep an eye out on this page as we will expand on:

• What is internalized shame

• Why do I feel unlovable

• How shame affects relationships

• Understanding performance shame

• Signs of relational shame

• Shame vs guilt psychology

• Healing from childhood shame

• Shame and trauma connection

• How to stop shame spirals
  

  Will continue tackling topics such as:

  • “I’m not enough”

  • “I feel like a burden”

  • Shame and perfectionism

  • Shame and belonging

  • Naming the inner critic

  • Reparenting shame

  • Childhood trauma and shame

  • Therapy for shame

  • Breaking the shame cycle

  • Mental health and shame
    

• To speak directly with staff about these topics and others, text 7143869766